How Therapy Can Support You Through Loss
Understanding Grief
Grief isn’t a straight line. It doesn’t follow neat steps or a set timeframe. One day it can feel heavy and raw; the next it feels far away or not there at all. It can crash in like a wave or come in slow, quiet ripples.
We tend to think of grief when someone dies. But you can also feel grief after big changes in your life, like a divorce, losing your job, getting sick, having a miscarriage, or a falling-out with someone important.
Sometimes, it’s not even about a person or event, but about losing a part of who you were or the life you used to have.
Common symptoms of grief include:
- Emotional numbness or shock
- Waves of anger or guilt
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Sleep disturbances or physical exhaustion
- Longing and vivid dreams
- Disconnection from others, even those who are grieving the same loss
These reactions are normal and deeply personal. No two people grieve the same way. Some feel their grief immediately, while others may not process it for months or even years.
In Australia, it’s recognised that grief isn’t a mental disorder, but it does impact mental health. When grief lingers intensely and starts to affect daily functioning, it may develop into Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD) or complicate existing conditions like depression and anxiety.
But here’s what’s important: you don’t have to “qualify” your grief to seek help. Counselling provides a safe space to understand and work through grief, no matter how it looks.
Why Counselling Makes a Difference
Grief is often too heavy to carry alone. Counselling gives you a place to talk it through and figure out what to do next. Here’s what you can expect from a skilled counsellor:
Be heard without judgment
Friends and family mean well, but grief can still feel lonely. With a counsellor, you don’t have to explain yourself. Say whatever comes up, big or small, without pressure or judgment.
Get help making sense of it all
Grief can be overwhelming – you might be flooded by sudden memories, tough dreams, and mixed feelings. A counsellor helps you make sense of it all, helping you to settle all of those feelings in a way that you can cope with, and that honours your experience.
Get tools to feel better
The goal of counselling isn’t for you to “just get over it.” It’s practical: what to do on birthdays and anniversaries, how to handle mornings and nights, getting sleep and meals back on track, how you talk to yourself, and who to lean on. These small steps add up.